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Frugality and Me: Couples Counseling May 1, 2007

Posted by pf in Expenses and Savings.

Generally speaking, I have always considered myself to be very frugal and smart with my money.  That’s not to say I was extraordinarily so, but definitely clip the coupons, shop the sales, buy generic, etc.  As my income has grown, however, I have started to notice my relationship with frugality has drifted a bit. 

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think our relationship is doomed, but I can sense frugality and I are growing apart and have lost a little of the “magic” we used to have.  For example, in our earlier days, I would have never considered getting a haircut without a coupon (usually $1 off or something like that).  Now I find that if it’s not readily available, then it’s “too much trouble” for the $1 saved and go anyway. 

Similarly, I find that we buy more name brand items (groceries) and / or specialty items (vitamin drinks) that we never bought before.  Also, I am slower to act on things where we may not be optimizing our spending (ex: phone, cable, etc).  For example, we are paying for HD on our cable box downstairs but hardly ever watch it.  I intend to cancel, but just haven’t gotten it done.  I’m certain my beloved frugality has noticed my “wandering eye” and probably feels the distance between us as well.

I have given this some thought and come to the conclusion that as our income has grown, the “little things” we used to pay attention to as far as saving / getting the best deal, etc have lost their importance since our resources seem more abundant.  Essentially, we don’t “feel it” as much as we used to.  My long-term relationship with frugality is very important to me, so I’ve decided to take action:

  • Assess how much we’re losing as a result (I estimate $20-40 a month)
  • Get back to basics (do we need it?  If so, how can we pay as little as possible for it?)
  • Quit being lazy.  Our relationship with frugality takes time / effort to make it work.

Granted, it’s probably not a lot of money in the grand scheme of things, but there’s no sense in spending more than you have to.  If you find yourself in similar circumstances, I encourage you to get “counseling” and recapture that “lovin’ feeling” of frugality.



1. Moneymonk - May 1, 2007

I think it is human nature to act that way, especially when you start to make more money.

I also had a love affair with frugality, My husband still do. But as I got older I started slacking. Not too much maybe about 10%. But overall I still maintain a good relationship with my husband and little girl. The is what’s most important.

2. Tracy - May 2, 2007

I live frugal because I want to and not necessarily because I need to, although money is always tight in our home, we always find ways to be able to get the things we need and want while supporting the 5 people in our household and 2 we pay child support for.

I love your post above, many people should read it, I totally enjoyed it 🙂

3. pf - May 2, 2007

Thanks Tracy – I hope it made you smile.

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